I get how freaky it can be for some people to bring this up with a partner. Asking to be sexually fulfilled in a specific way can feel incredibly vulnerable. But the very vulnerability that comes with asking for what you want from your partner can make sex so much more satisfying for both of you. To that end, here are my four best tips for asking for more oral sex. This goes back to my good-sex ground rule of telling your partner how you want to feel in bed.
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Skip navigation! Story from Sex. That same study found that That said, as these numbers indicate, you're also not alone if you don't love oral sex — giving or receiving. Some people hate it. Others could take it or leave it. Some might prefer another kind of sex, whether that be manual stimulation, vaginal sex, anal sex, using a sex toy, or something else.
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An incredibly convenient thing about being on the receiving end of oral sex is that your mouth is free to do all the talking and bossing around that you please. And just in case the thought of giving your partner a blueprint to your vagina and your clitoris gives you the crawlies, take some advice from Real Life Women who have strategic and effective ways of getting exactly the oral you want and deserve. Life is too short for bad oral sex. Ask and you shall receive better oral sex. To the left. To the right. Tell him exactly what you want. Either way, go for it. Give him detailed instructions to get both of you all horned up, and them set him free to go to town on your vagina with his mouth.
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